What Kindness Means To Me As A Parent

In response to Kelly Eden’s thought-provoking question

The world is indeed unkind sometimes, especially when you’re married with children. But — c’est la vie. To me, the world shines a great deal brighter with parents like Kelly Eden in it. Eager to respond to her beautiful article, My Kid’s Needed Me To Be Kind So I Stopped Being Nice, I passionately (and efficiently) made love to my husband and then fired up my laptop.

What kindness means to me as a mother, a wife, and a woman (a force to be reckoned with):

The Mom

  • Pouring everything I’ve got (my blood, sweat, and tears) into educating my kids on how to be kind to themselves first.
  • Teaching them how to trust their gut by showing them I believe in mine.
  • Raising them to be independent (not dependent) one age-appropriate life skill lesson at a time (how to bath themselves, clip their nails, cook, fold clothes, be responsible with their finances, etc.).
  • Showing them how to do things before telling them how to do it.
  • Teaching my kids the value of taking care of themselves mentally and physically by leading by example.
  • Genuinely connecting with my ten-year-old son, Liam, and making him laugh so hard his face hurts.
  • Giving my seven-year-old daughter, Luna, my unwavering attention (and extra time to talk) at bedtime even though I’m exhausted and can’t wait for her to go the f**k to sleep.

The Wife

  • Telling Mr. Grey that I love him, giving him a good kiss on those undulating sexy man lips of his, and leaving the room to do my own thing for the night.
  • Clearly communicating what I want and need in my marriage. (i.e., a conversation loaded with honesty, integrity, and emotional intelligence.)
  • Being okay with not being okay. (Letting go of being perfect and not wanting to be.)

The Woman

  • Ending every day with a lonesome, lengthy, and steamy shower (by candlelight) while I reflect on how I feel about my life and what I’m doing tomorrow to be a better human than I was today.
  • Taking my vitamins.
  • Cutting down on caffeine.
  • Maintaining a strong identity outside of being a mother and a wife.
  • Saying “Yes” only when I want to and not giving a long explanation for saying “No”. (This fits into all three categories)
  • Working out 4 -5 days a week.
  • Missing a workout (or taking five “rest” days in a row) and loving myself anyway.

Thank you, Kelly, for your piece on kindness. Reading it immediately got my wheels turning and was a refreshing way to start the new year!

“One of the hardest parts about being a parent is that, if you’re good at it, eventually, you’re out of a job.” — Fuller House, Danny Tanner

Thank you for reading and spending some time with me today.❤

© Divina Grey 2020

I love Love, playing my guitar, rebuilding my life one article at a time, and drinking coffee in my underwear! Thank you for your love and support!❤

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